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05/03/21

Value of the Month - Kindness

If you are told that if you clean the car you will be paid some money for doing it, then you expect the payment to come if you have done a good job.  If you have a birthday then you might expect gifts to come from members of the family - probably the ones that gave you gifts last year.

Kindness is a bit different to this. People are being kind when they act towards you in a pleasant way when they don’t actually need to or when people go over and above what might be expected.

Kindness is a beautiful thing and can cheer someone up, lift their spirits, enable them to endure hard times, which is why we believe it is important and one of our values of the month.

Þ The recipe for kindness starts with a healthy helping of gratitude first. If you are feeling fed up, bored and unhappy it’s pretty hard to want to cheer someone else up with an act of kindness. It’s when your cup is full that you can allow some kindness to spill over. So having a regular think about all the things you can be grateful for will help your mood and enable you to think of others and not just yourself. We looked at gratitude as one of our values earlier this year and suggested that you aim for an attitude of gratitude.

Þ This leads us to our second point - do some thinking about what might be the kind thing to do: how do I speak, what do I do, how should I respond? You may have heard the saying about walking a mile in someone else’s shoes as a picture of what it’s like to see the world as someone else sees it and knowing what they might want. Thinking about how to be kind is important.

Þ Watch others. We learn best by imitation and so we do well to look out for when people are kind - at school, at home, in stories, on TV. Ask yourself whether you could imagine yourself being kind like you have seen. What have you got to lose?

Þ Practise. We can feel nervous about being kind. What if we do the wrong thing? What if the person comes to expect it and we fail them? What if they are embarrassed and feel they need to be kind back? We may not get it right first time and it could be awkward. But that’s why we need to see being kind as something we practise, knowing too that we can get better and not allow any uncertainly to stop us

Þ Make it a habit. When you get into the swing of things, you could decide that your very first thought, or reaction, or choice of words are going to be kind ones. Hopefully you have some good habits: wash daily, clean your teeth, wash your hands before you eat, brush your feet on the doormat when you go into your home and be kind! It would be a good habit to get into and it doesn’t cost anything.

The dictionary defines kindness as - the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.  And in being kind, you will feel good too.       NP

 

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